Issue No. 6
Welcome to The Flairhunter Edit, where I share all the flair on my radar each month. If you love what you see, forward the flair to a friend!
Recently, I was reminded of how grateful I am to have experienced many types of friendship. Some flow effortlessly, continuing without interruption, while others quietly close a chapter with no dramatic break-up - someone moves away, our kids grow up, or careers and interests shift. But in both cases, there’s beauty in recognizing the natural ebb and flow of relationships, appreciating the ones that endure, and understanding those that naturally drift apart.
Last month, when I attended my 40th high school reunion, I realized that friendships I thought were firmly in the past could be rediscovered and rekindled, like an old romance. Years or decades can go by, then, suddenly, paths cross again, and we learn that we still have things in common - sometimes even more than before. The relationship is enriched by the wisdom, life experiences, challenges, triumphs, and a zillion other factors that have shaped us over time.
There is something uniquely special about the people who knew you during life’s most vulnerable moments and shared experiences - whether through the awkward growing years, the challenges of raising kids, or periods of intense personal growth. You witnessed each other at your most unguarded, and that shared history creates a sense of truly being seen and understood.
Reflecting on the emotions stirred by sharing memories, laughter, stories, and tears - made me realize how often we intentionally or unintentionally present a filtered version of ourselves to new people we meet. But reconnecting with someone who knew you at 15, 25, or 35 is powerful. It’s a deep connection that fills me with gratitude and awe, even a month later. Events like a high school reunion are a beautiful reminder that just because we’ve lost touch with someone, at any age, doesn’t mean they’re gone forever. (And yes, staying marginally connected via social media definitely helps keep those bonds alive!)
Some people may only be meant for one chapter of our lives, but many relationships aren't as temporary as we think. Instead of being over, they might just be on pause and not a closed door. For me, the lesson is clear: if I find myself thinking about someone from my past, I’ll be reaching out, regardless of how much time has passed, because you never know when a connection is ready to resume again.
What’s the biggest impact friends have had in your life? And, in what chapters?
Steph
Design Tip
This month's design tip, a flower-butter recipe, may not seem like a typical design tip, but hear me out. Shaped butter infused with edible flowers adds a touch of flair and creativity to the table, transforming a simple meal into an experience! It's easy to make and a beautiful way to elevate any table setting. There are several recipes online, below is the one I used. If you try this, share and tag me on Instagram @theflairhunter!
Design Product of the Month
The presentation of your flower- butter on a pretty serving dish (keep scrolling to shop some favorites!), can also highlight your attention to detail.
A well-designed butter dish becomes a small but impactful element, enhancing the overall aesthetic of your table. Or, you can serve it on a small dessert plate that looks like old vintage granny china. If you buy a set, you can always use them for dessert or salad plates, too!
Travel: Flair in the Air
Montecito, California
I don’t keep it a secret that Montecito and the surrounding areas of Santa Barbara and Summerland are my happy places. An area with so much history for my husband and me, where we used to live, and where I’m hoping to have a home again one day. I love having design projects there; it gives us a reason to keep returning!
Where to Stay
San Ysidro Ranch - This legendary hideaway with a historic guest list is a perfect special occasion getaway. Beautiful, romantic, and intimate with trails and upper village Montecito nearby.
Montecito Inn - Old, funky, and fun this property was built in 1928 by Charlie Chaplin and a small group of investors who loved to hang out in this area. It’s in the perfect location - within walking distance of beaches, shops, and dining.
El Encanto - With beautiful, lush gardens and a view of the Pacific Ocean, this hotel offers the perfect tranquil getaway.
Where to Eat
In the greater Montecito area, you'll find lots of fabulous options for drinks and meals. From cuisine featuring fresh seafood and local produce to casual cafés, the best pizza ever, and dive bars, the dining scene is diverse with something for everyone.
The Lark - Situated in the heart of the Funk Zone, a vibrant arts and entertainment district near the Waterfront in downtown Santa Barbara, The Lark menus highlight ingredients that are locally sourced and responsibly grown. The space is designed with an urban style that integrates vintage and repurposed materials, sophisticated and casual, with a nod to the hood's industrial past. Can you say, "Flair!"?
Lucky’s - Located in the Montecito Inn, you’ll feel lucky you found this classic American Steakhouse. And, if you stay at the Inn, you can just stumble upstairs to bed after the best martinis and people-watching ever.
Bettina - Recently receiving Bib Gourmand status in the 2024 MICHELIN Guide, Bettina is a cozy neighborhood restaurant specializing in naturally leavened, wood-fired pizzas and simple dishes influenced by the owners' travels to Italy. The pizza is truly to die for, the best in Santa Barbara! Or, dare I say, anywhere?! This place kept us alive during our COVID takeout year!
The Nugget - Located in Summerland, The Nugget is the definition of a dive bar and restaurant, where celebrities and families dine in the most fabulous, old-school, dark space. Taxidermied animals, old street signs, and framed photos of notable customers adorn the walls. Everyone is happy and casual; some even arrive by horseback!
Helena Avenue Bakery - This Santa Barbara staple serves the best coffee and pastries. You can eat in or grab a special road-trip treat to take with you on a drive through the Santa Ynez Valley.
What to Do
There is so much to explore in the greater Montecito area. From outdoor adventures to shopping the boutiques, and art galleries, there is no shortage of things to do and see during your stay. Here are a few of my favorites!
The Funk Zone - Wander around this vibrant area located near the harbor. It’s been refurbished with no shortage of great galleries, wine-tasting spots, boutiques, and unique shops.
Lotusland - Tucked away in the residential hills of Montecito is this incredible botanical garden. Founded by Madam Ganna Walska in 1941, its history is as fascinating as the gardens. Talk about Flair!
Hikes - Nature lovers and hikers will have a field day with a plethora of trails to discover in and around Montecito and San Ysidro. The Cold Spring Loop is my favorite!
Santa Ynez Valley Drive - Take a drive up and over the hill into Santa Ynez Valley. It’s a great way to breathe in the rich beauty of the landscape and clear your mind.
A Fly Over - Planning a personalized fly-over tour is my favorite way to experience the magic and beauty of the city, the water, and the Channel Islands. The pilots will point out historic sites, and celebrity homes - think Oprah, the former Reagan Ranch, etc...
Where to Shop
Loveworn, in the Funk Zone - A trendy boutique celebrating vintage and curated fashion with a modern twist. It's known for its eclectic mix of retro clothing, unique accessories, and stylish home décor, capturing the spirit and charm of vintage and contemporary flair.
Wendy Foster - A chic, iconic boutique known for its effortlessly elegant and timeless style. Curated with a mix of high-end fashion, casual coastal pieces, and unique accessories, the store embodies the relaxed yet sophisticated vibe of Montecito. A must-stop and shop spot!
Clic, in Montecito Country Mart - Blending fashion, art, and home décor, Clic is known for its curated selection of modern apparel, unique books, and beautifully crafted home goods.
Mate Gallery - This vibrant gallery offers a dynamic experience showcasing contemporary art and a shop with foreign vintage textiles, out-of-print books, and a rotating roster of artist's works.
The Blue Door Santa Barbara - A vintage collective located in Santa Barbara, this store is nestled a block from the ocean in the city's Funk Zone neighborhood. It features displays of expertly sourced vintage pieces from private collectors, along with locally handmade goods.
Raoul Textiles - This spot is part workshop and part showroom. Located around the corner from their factory, the store acts as their creative headquarters. You'll find their hand-printed tea towels, pillows, art, and elegant accessories. They also carry a selection of work from Santa Barbara artists and designers.
Wear Your Flair
The perfect fall date night outfit combines cozy comfort with effortless style. Start with flared black denim, paired with a bodysuit, tank or cami, and a light-weight, fall-colored sweater for that seasonal pop. Add a scarf around your neck for an extra layer of style and a cute ponytail holder for a polished, relaxed look. Complete the fit with a stylish pouch bag and a pointed-toe slingback. And, don’t forget, everyone needs a pair of functional, stylish readers to help see the menu in dim lighting. Or, is that just me?!
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Spotlight on Flair
Introducing Spotlight on Flair, a new section in the newsletter where we shine a light on inspiring innovators, change-makers, and creators from diverse backgrounds. Each month, we’ll offer a personal glimpse into the minds of those who embody that undeniable flair factor with a few fun Q&As. Kicking things off, we’re thrilled to feature Southern California-based artist Pierce Meehan as our first inspiration. You can also follow him on Instagram @piercemeehan.
What’s the most unexpected source of inspiration for your work?
Architecture. I love the unusual use of materials and thoughtful design. I love all things, both modern and old, and the stories behind them. It’s a total mix. I’m currently visiting Nantucket with my family to celebrate my mother's birthday, and I’m fascinated with the respect the locals have for their homes. I love that the houses have names and engraved signs, and each door knocker is custom. It reminds me of a quote I like to use, “Everything you’ve ever seen is that way because someone, somewhere, thought it should be that way.”
If your work had a theme song, what would it be?
There’s a running joke that my life is like a montage scene from a Robin Williams movie. Playing over that, I hear “This Must Be The Place” by the Talking Heads. It’s on every playlist in the studio. It’s a feel-good song. I think my artwork is generally positive and aimed at making people feel a sense of warmth when they encounter it. Everyone has hardships, so I’m honored to create work that gives people a sense of calm and peace.
What’s a piece of advice you’d give your younger self?
Keep asking questions, and continue to seek out good mentors. This kind of work is very solitary, so I’m very grateful to have my sister Karlin (also an artist) to talk through ideas. But, having a mentor is a game-changer. I’ve been very fortunate to have great, successful mentors.
What’s the boldest risk you’ve taken in your career?
There is one project that stands out. It was an aquaform triptych, nearly 12' tall x 30' wide. I had no idea how I was going to make it. Before I accepted the commission, I called my best friend’s father, Marshall “Duffy” Duffield, and asked if it was even possible with the materials. He replied with a solid “I dunno, but you’re going to find out”. He gave me space in his boat factory to attempt it, 100 miles away. I slept on the floor of that factory in the high desert for a month and loved every second of making that work. It was a massive swing and I made it happen.
If you could have dinner with any three people, living or dead, who would they be?
My father, Jimmy Buffet, and the architect Bob White. Jimmy Buffet for obvious reasons, and I’ve always admired Bob. But, my father especially. He passed away nine years ago while I was traveling on my first art-related business trip. In the last conversation I ever had with him, I was concerned about making the jump to practicing art full-time, and he reassured me he had faith in my abilities. It was unexpected and exactly what I needed to hear at that moment. I’d love to talk to him now and share some of the wild adventures and lessons this career has offered me. He would be excited to see how this great adventure is going.
What’s one item you always have with you, no matter where you go?
Unfortunately, it’s an inhaler. I’ve had asthma my entire life, so it’s my lifeline. I always have one on me or near me. Also, sunscreen.
What’s a habit or routine that helps you stay grounded?
I’d say time spent with my family. It’s paramount for me. I get up early and go down to Laguna Beach a few times a week to make coffee and chat with my mother. Being one of six children isn’t too usual where I’m from; it’s a built-in support system. I also walk a ton. It’s good to be outside and think. I’m constantly listening to podcasts, audiobooks, and music.
If you weren’t doing what you do now, what would your dream job be?
It sounds very cliché, but I have my dream job. I get to create and meet interesting people all over the world. But if I had to really think about it, perhaps something in agriculture or an owner of a small boutique hotel somewhere. Maybe both one day!
Flair for Wellness
What I’m loving this month…French eye cream.
Yon-Ka Phyto-Contour- I use this cream to eliminate puffiness and dark circles and to firm the appearance of my entire eye area. It even helps alleviate pesky milia! To prevent tearing the website advises giving the rosemary fragrance time to dissipate. I keep my eyes closed for a few minutes during application and massage it in thoroughly before opening my eyes. Voila!
Culture & Media
The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho is a book I’ve read on repeat. It's an inspiring story about a young shepherd named Santiago who is on a quest to discover his legacy and the deeper meaning of life. Along the way, he learns lessons about dreams and perseverance. A classic that everyone should read and a reminder to trust the journey, Flairhunters!
My Flair Mix
Whether winding down before bed or relaxing on a long-haul flight, this playlist will help get you into the chill zone.
The Cult of Flair Podcast
Five O’Clock Flair
Here’s a great transitional cocktail for September - a Spiced Pear Spritz. Balancing the lightness of summer with the warmth of fall flavors, this cocktail combines refreshing pear and citrus notes with the cozy spices of fall, making it the perfect bridge between the seasons. Make it a mocktail? Substitute La Croix Peach-Pear flavored sparkling water for the vodka and prosecco!
Ingredients:
2 oz pear vodka
1 oz spiced simple syrup (cinnamon, clove, and nutmeg infused)
1 oz fresh lemon juice
Top with sparkling water or prosecco
Instructions:
Combine all ingredients in your glass of choice and stir
Add ice
Garnish with a thin pear slice and a cinnamon stick
Cheers!
Love the flower butter! So pretty. It might actually be worth pulling the stand mixer out for 🤣
Such a beautiful note about friendships and a great reminder to reach out to the ones who cross your mind ❤️